Why we are all get frustrated?
Anger, pain, happiness, sadness, these are the minimum qualities that a human being should have. But now we react in any situation is called our life. Our success while all of this is one aspect, how we react to our anger is another aspect. Why do we all get angry? We get angry if we don’t get things done on time. For example if we start for office on time, the traffic is not well, the bus does not come on time. Even small reasons like this.. we can make us angry. Are all these problems or our anger? The anger we get from our problems. If you can’t go to the office on time.. they think you have no punctuality. So this is your problem. You maybe scolded by your boss. You get angry because he scolds you. You can’t show that anger on your boss. You have to take it out on those who are weaker than you. Maybe your family, or on the employees below you in the office. Since they did not show their anger towards you…detect that anger out on those who are weaker than them. This cycle goes on and on…there is no end to it.
If you miss the bus or get into a traffic jam while you are going to the office, think if there is another chance to go to the office. Take auto or cab. Please inform in advance that I will come late to office today due to the traffic jam. It may be that you went to the late, it is not your irresponsibility. But remember one thing, you should not go to office for this reason everyday. As there was a traffic jam the day before, try to start from a bit earlier to the next day.
You should never project our anger on those who weaker than you. Due to this, most of our relationships are lost. Not only our relationships damaged, sometimes grudges go so far as to drive people apart forever. Where the biggest problem come is.. if show your office frustration at home, your life partner and children will create life long distances. Why should you show your anger on others? If you have a problem with your boss, you should talk to him. Accepted if you are really wrong. If it is not your fault tell them gently. Of course you have many tensions in your office…remember he is your superior.. so he has more tensions than you.
If you show your anger on others, they will become even more anger at you. Then your problem will increase. You need to think of a solution to your problem. But your satisfying your ego by showing anger on others. You should realise that you all get hurt when you are boss scolds you, and if you scold someone else for no reason, they will also get hurt.
Some people get angry with us for no reason.”why should I keep quite always? I don’t make any mistake..”such thoughts come to our mind. There are probably no circumstances you can resist them. It will have to endure for money years. Your mind endures that torture and suddenly burst out. It is such situation that murders happen in a flash. In fact such a big work cannot be done a moment. You mind has endured that torture for so many days and that’s why it has taken this kind of decision. When encounter such people in your life confront them bravely. At that moment, stay away from them if there are irresistible.
If you can’t bravely resist them, you will be sudden to see someone’s else happiness. Try to speak boldly in front of them once, next time they will think long enough to scold you unnecessarily. You have to fight with those who are the cause of your suffering. Don’t think that because we are suffering, somehow someone has to suffer and that will make our suffering go away. This method will make you an enemy. If someone is the cause of your pain, why should someone else be punished?
As many problems as their or solution, we have to deal with all of them wisely. Some have to be resolved by compromising. And somehow have to be bravely resisted and fought. Anyway you have to solve your own problems.
