What stage is your ego in?
When we want to do something, there is some force that stops us, it is called ego. We like to do that…but we don’t. We will think about it again and again. Just don’t agree to do that.
For example let’s say two friends have a small fight and didn’t they talk.
It’s been 2 days. It’s been 3 days. Both of them did not talk. Which means that there is ego in both of them. Both of them are always thinking about each other and they think that if they talk first then happily I will also talk.
Both of them thing that.. if I speak first.. maybe I will be small in their eyes. This means that.. your ego dominate your will.
But the thing to think about it that.. if two friends quarrel, maybe the fault lies with both of them.
It is also think like that ..I have done nothing wrong..
Another reason for ego is to think “why should I speak first every time?
But don’t you like to be friends with them? The same theory apply to any relationship.
The ego I mention above is the first stage. There is no big loss due to this, we will be mentally disturbed for a few days.
The second stage is when one person wants to dominate the other person, no matter how close they are..
He should listen to what I say because he is my best friend.. they think like that. Maybe it is friendship or any other relationship.. they have the right to live as they like..
I don’t know what to call it ego or revenge.
How are these types of people.. they think that if we do whatever others say, we will become inferior in their eyes. That’s why they don’t do what they like to do. They think that if I act against them, I might hurt them. I can be happy like that..
But the thing to realise is that ego is your not others..
If you can’t do what you love, you are the one who will suffer.. not others
Everytime you go I against them with you will finally lose your relationship with them.
It is also mistake to.. think that they have no other option and will come to me and listen to what I have to say
If you say NO every time, why do they need to come to you, they will do things in a different way. It’s like you are ruining your relationship.
